Well, that worry sort of solved

It turns out the guy I've been kind of seeing lately wasn't cuming because he's not in love with me, and that it turns out is important to him. That's fine, and I was thinking that I'd need to break things off with him anyway - I'm not in love with him either, and while I care for him deeply (he's one of my oldest friends, which is not changing for either of us) he's utterly vanilla, and frankly his life, and what he seems to want, is just far too... I keep thinking small, but probably too limited/ing for me is more accurate. I didn't want to hurt him, and when he called tonight to kind of break things off I actually broke things off for certain.

I'm glad that what we've had over the last several weeks has awakened him to some of the joys he's been missing, and that he's going to start meeting women and expanding his life now. I just wish someone could provide me some of the same aid I seem to give everyone else. I seem to be either a catalyst or a band-aid for most of the people I care about. Is there someone out there that can be that for me?

I need some help please...